Potty Training = You’re Mean!

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Cakes is about 2 1/2 years old now. She completely understands about the potty and informs me everyday before she messes in her diaper.

She tries use the potty as a distraction when it’s time to wash her hair. As in:
“Cakes, it time to wash your hair.”
“I need to go on the potty, Mommy!”
She knows I will allow her out of the bath to potty… Well, until I caught onto her game. That happened on day 2 she tried her little deception… This is not Mommy’s first rodeo!

Bottomline, she’s smart. She knows what’s going on. I feel like its getting to the point the diaper will start to cause a hygiene issue and she needs to wear panties now. Her brothers were both potty trained when they turned 2.

So today, she has to wear her big girl panties. And so…

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This should be fun! My 2 yr old is not stubborn at all… Hahahhaa! Jokes…

Wanna feel human again

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Most moms can relate… And if you can’t, you are probably some sort of alien or something! After you have a baby, you feel like a mess!

You are physically exhausted from growing your baby for nearly 10 months, then there’s the actual birthing process and there is no really recovery period. Baby comes out and the real work begins! You go from exhausted to barely functional. My blog has suffered for sure, as you can tell, it’s been a few days since my last post! (I have so many posts to catch up on!)

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It does get easier with each baby, at least I think it has (or maybe I am the alien?!?). It depends on the neediness level your baby as well. My most high maintenance, and fussiest baby, was my first… And each baby seemed to be less fussy and more laid back. Maybe it’s a reflection of how I have evolved as a mom. Although Hubbs would not agree that I am less fussy and more laid back! Haha!

Anyhow, there a few things that make you feel so “human again” in those first weeks of post-partum. For me, a shower works wonders. I hardly had time to shower every other day before Peanut was delivered so you can imagine how hard it is now that he’s here and I have four children vying for my attention. It takes extreme efforts to work it in the schedule in the morning, which is my preferred time of day to shower, because washing my frizzy hair at night and sleeping on it only results in terrible hair day. Anyhow, making time to not only shower but also blow dry my hair and apply make-up is like the equivalent to a day at the spa for me anymore.

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Another thing that really makes me feel good is making my bed. I think it tricks me into feeling like the house or my room is really not as messy as it truly is. When I realize how truly behind I am on housework, my anxiety level spikes. The whole thought process of this house is a wreck, laundry is 15 loads behind, when the hell am I gonna get any of it done?!?!? Make the bed. All is calm.

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What makes you “feel human again”?

Peanut

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He finally made it!! We are so in love!

So sweet and SO tiny! Well, for me he is tiny:

Boss born at 41 weeks 3 days was 9lbs 6oz.
Wildman born at 39 weeks 3 days was 9lbs, exactly.
Cakes born at 40 weeks 1 day was 9lbs .1 oz.

And then there’s Peanut…
Born at 40 weeks 6 days was 7lbs 7oz.

I don’t even know what to do with myself! He’s so small and adorable! We are SO happy he’s here!

Mess-ecipe Success: Bacon-Wrapped Jalapeño Chicken

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At a loss on what to make for dinner last night, ya know, since I crave nothing but McFlurries at the moment… Hubbs wanted buffalo chicken something. Ok….. Here is what I came up with.

I love jalapeño stuffed with cream cheese wrapped in bacon so it was my inspiration.

In a bowl, I mixed half a block of cream cheese with two chopped jalapeños, a handful of shredded cheddar, salt and pepper.

I had boneless, skinless chicken thighs on hand. My idea was to stuff the chicken with the cream cheese mixture, coat in hot sauce and wrap with bacon.

I preheated oven to 400 degrees and got my iron skillet hot.

I wanted hot sauce to be thicker so I mixed franks buffalo wing sauce (3 – 4 tbsp) with some mayo (maybe like 2 tbsp) in a small bowl.

In a shallow dish, I put about 1/2 cup of the GF Bisquick baking mix.

So the assembly went as follows:

1 tbsp cream cheese mixture on yucky side of chicken thigh
Roll chicken thigh and secure edges together with a toothpick
Dip cream cheese stuffed chicken thigh roll in buffalo wing sauce
Dredge in GF baking mix
Wrap with a strip of bacon
It’s a messy process but I went with it

Add a tbsp oil (evoo) to iron skillet.

Add chicken rolls to hot skillet, and cook for a minute or two each side just to get bacon going. I do not like chewy bacon. I only did like 3 rolls at a time.

Place half-cooked chicken rolls on baking sheet and bake in oven until bacon is cooked and cheese is bubbling out… 15-20mins. Check chicken for doneness before eating!!!!!!

Everyone loved these. As in Hubbs had to limit himself and stop himself from eating them all… As in Hubbs just requested them for dinner again tonight.

Chicken Bacon Subs (Freezer Friendly)

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I came across the recipe I adapted this from in a blog… And as soon as I can remember which it was, I will post it!

Being that I was sure I’d be able to have my baby this week (so far it’s not looking too promising), I wanted to have some meals made ahead in the freezer so feeding the kids would be easy for Hubbs or whoever was here helping out. Searching for something other then your typical casserole, I came across this idea.

I had grabbed a couple of whole chickens to roast. They were like $5-$6… You can get a ready made rotisserie chicken for the same price (may not be as big). As soon as I got home, I started roasting.

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Pampered Chef Ultimate Roasted Garlic Chicken

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Once chicken cooled, I pulled meat from the bone and put in frig for later.

To assemble chicken bacon subs (these are not GF but could be if you had GF bread):

Cut large French loaf lengthwise.
Place bread on a large sheet of aluminum foil.
Original recipe calls to spread garlic butter on bottom half. I didn’t feel up to making the garlic butter so I spread butter on bread, and sprinkled with granulated garlic powder and dried parsley. Still yum.
Spread shredded/chopped roasted chicken on top of buttered bottom half of loaf.
Top with shredded Parmesan cheese.
Top with sliced mozzarella.
Sprinkle with crumbled bacon. I had some I reserved from breakfast on Sunday.
Place top half of bread over cheese.
Wrap in foil.

To serve right away, bake at 350 degrees for about 25 minutes.

For later? Freeze. To serve, bake 50-70 minutes from frozen or 25-30 minutes if thawed. Label and write instructions on foil with sharpie for your cooking challenged spouse. 😉

Since I am not in the hospital, I served these right away. They were a hit. Even Wildman raved about how much he liked it and I can’t even get him to eat a chicken quesadilla from Chipolte!

“You can’t stay pregnant forever”…

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Yep… That’s what one of the nurses said to me, the lady past due with her forth child, as I laid there in terrible pain, being discharged because they did not have time to induce me. I needed to be on the “schedule” for that. (but if my cervix was working, I guess they make time?)

Had I been composed enough to school her, I would have. Mostly I wanted to scratch her eyes out but decided too control myself.

I am not a doctor or midwife or doula. I don’t deliver babies all day. I do know my own body and from experience, it is not cooperative when it comes to the actual act of going into labor. I joke about it and try to make light of it, but really I am being dead serious and it bothers me quite a bit. When I hear someone talk about how they went into labor on their own, I get ridiculously jealous… Like too an unhealthy level.

People will say, especially the nurses and midwifes LOVE to say tell you (and if you are like me, you get real freaking tired of it and you want to go insane on them) … your baby will come when your ready. Oh really?? Apparently you missed that special on tv about the woman with the 30 yr old fetus, didn’t you???

Not every one’s body works the way it should. If it did, there would be a lot of pissed off doctors and nurses, out of work with piles of college bills to pay. I do not know why this is the general assumption… Ya know, especially since we all like in a perfect world. Not.
It makes people like me feel broken and insufficient, like a failure.

Not to mention, although it was probably barbaric, c-sections have been dated back to like 300 BC. Why? Well, it wasn’t because mom wanted too but because there was a medical need. Nowadays, I think c-sections and inductions tend to be performed more often unnecessarily and for social reasons but it is not always the case. If mom is having a medical emergency, a c-section will save lives.

I have been lucky so far that I have not needed a c-section. My body reacts positively to petocin so my babies have been born via induction. I firmly believe that if not for modern day medicine, I would still be pregnant with my first – just like that woman in India.

As I have mentioned, we grow big babies in this family. It is a trait on Hubbs side of the family. There is no history of prenatal diabetes… just big, hearty, healthy babies… Ready to be put to work on the farm! Haha! Which is also another pet peeve of mine… The drs and nurses assume me or baby has a sugar problem when they find out how I have big babies. It is just as simple as genetics! It also makes a natural birth a little more challenging, even if you are able to go into real labor on your own.

Anyhow, with my first baby, the doctor allowed me to wait over a week past my due date knowing the possibility of the baby being rather large. I understand this is common practice with first time moms, I get it. A week past my due date, and my cervix had not done a thing and I had been in false labor for weeks. (supposedly contractions are what cause your cervix to progress and ready for labor). My labor with him was so bad, I SWORE I would never get pregnant again. (well we see how that worked out). He was huge and I was in hard labor for 2 1/2 hours, so physically exhausted, I would sleep for even 30 secs between contractions and pushing. My dr was on the verge of rushing me to the OR for emergency c-section when I was finally able to get him out. An absolutely terrible birthing experience… Not like I would ever call a birthing experience good. I mean, the end result, your beautiful baby, is good but the process is excruciating and there is a lot of yucky fluids involved.

I know women who start to dilate and get stuck therefore needing a c-section. So how does the “when your ready” method apply here?? You continue to labor and not progress therefore causing stress on the baby and baby passes meconium, or worse! So if one is in the sort of situation, you cannot sit around and wait for your body to finish “getting ready”. Maybe you see where I am going with this. “You’re not ready” is a freaking cop out. I hate it. I hate hearing it. I want to banish it from all languages.

So, why doesn’t my cervix work? (all you all-knowing can kiss it if you try to tell me there is no such thing as a cervix that doesn’t work- I have been through it!!!) I get nice strong contractions. This morning they felt like the contractions I get on petocin… Bent over, crying in pain. But my cervix is still doing a whole lotta nothing. When the midwife tells me I am dilated to 1, I do not believe her. I think she is trying to be nice to me and lift my spirits. I am not freaking idiot. This is my forth pregnancy, remember?!?! Your mind games only set me up for disappointment and anger.

So I am curious, what is it that I am deficient in? Why do i have such a hard time going into real labor? And why is it that the petocin helps me?

I have done a little research and it all makes sense to me now. I can’t wait to educate my drs tomorrow! It is going to be awesome. Well, for me at least.

Both men and women have a hormone called oxytocin. This is the “cuddle” hormone. It is also the hormone responsible for causing contractions that ready your cervix and help you deliver your baby. It is also believed to vital to the nursing process. On this note: I have never produced more then 2 oz of breast milk, ever. It’s all starting to make sense… The nursing specialist (the one who cost me $450 with her nonsense) had told me that all women make enough milk for their babies, can shove it now.

When someone is deficient in this hormone… Well I am just going to quote it:

“What is oxytocin used for?

The medical use of oxytocin has centered primarily on labor and delivery, dating back as far as 1906. Common trade names for prescription oxytocin used for labor and delivery are pitocin and syntocinon.

The science of oxytocin outside of labor and delivery use is still relatively new. However, studies as early as 1998 have been conducted on the effectiveness of oxytocin as a treatment for autism as well as schizophrenia. Essentially, oxytocin’s role is to assist in the modulation of the amygdala — the brain’s center for stress hormones.

Oxytocin deficiency

If oxytocin production is not working optimally and an individual has an oxytocin deficiency, then he or she may be prone to postpartum depression, generalized depression and anxiety, social isolation, phobias, panic attacks, sleep difficulties, and other common stress related ailments.

In 1995 the Atlanta Center for the Study of Disease Control estimated that 80% of diseases and disorders are related to stress. Hypothetically, if the brain’s modulating hormone for cortisol is not working effectively then the outcome is an increase in many of the ailments common today.”
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Ha! It is a real problem. Oxytocin deficiency. Cortisol levels are also linked to being over weight… I really think I am onto something here. Need to do more research! Oh and cut out all stress… Oookkkkkkkkk

In the meantime, I will take great pleasure in responding to the nurse when she asks if I am dilated, “Due to oxytocin deficiency, NO.”

Luv

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I love, love, love, LOVE my in-law family! They came for an impromptu visit this evening. I wish I would have taken more pics but I was too busy loving all over my new nephew! Cakes was SO happy!

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I am so lucky to have such a great in-law family. I am not sure how many other people can say the same… There is no judgment, we just like spending time together, and if I need help (and I will shamelessly ask when I do) they are there – no questions asked. It is just who they are and I am so grateful. Family is not always this way, and if there is one thing I have learned in life, you cannot change people and generally, people do not change. Just because someone is your “family” does not mean they are good or that you should allow them to hurt you. Family is not always blood. They are the people who love and care about you, treat you well and make you feel like you are a part of something totally awesome. Life is too short to spend it wasting energy trying to part of a “family” that doesn’t want you… I thank God everyday for my circle of friends and true family – blood or not – who do treat me well and want me and my family part of their lives.

The kids were super good this morning. Boss helped me make breakfast, Wildman was on dog duty without being asked, and Cakes was being 2. Times like this make me feel like I am doing this parenting thing right. 😉

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Baby Brother is officially overdue and I have planned some freezer friendly meals for the week since I will be delivering him at some point this week whether he’s cooperating or not. I am excited to share – Moms need yummy go-to meals waiting for them in the freezer! That means more time to spend with our precious babies!